New Year New Me!

A new year is approaching. I don't make resolutions because I know I am changing and growing day in and day out. I don't need to really resolve on one day that they will be done.

I think this year has been a great year of change for me. It has taught me several things....

1. Patience, patience in understanding who I am, what I want and how I will get it done
2. Love, that loving me is most important in order to love others. I have learned that you can't force love and that many don't even really know how to love. Many don't even know how to receive the true love that I give.
3. Healing, that my healing from all ills in my life comes more than physically but spiritually and mentally. I often looked for the BAM you are healed sound, but I realized that my healing comes in waves and in the time it is meant to be. I have learned that a healing for myself can actually be my struggle in helping others to heal.

It has been a great year overall with all the trials, all of the losses, all of the laughter, all of the joy, all of the love that has been evident in my life. I can't complain. I am THANKFUL and I look forward to a New Year and a New Me!

It's Ironic

It’s Ironic

It’s ironic, how the people who say, “I’m going to be here for you,” 

are also the ones who walk away first

They profess those words with such strength and poise and always seem well versed…..

But the reality is they have no idea how to be there at all

They only know how to play with your emotions tossing it back and forth like a ball

When things are good they are able to dramatically say, “I am here for always”

They walk with you laughing and smiling at all through your sweet times in your fabulous hallways

But when it’s your time to go through some rough terrible terrain

Their beautiful verses turn to, “Oh, I can’t take YOUR heartache and pain…”

It’s Ironic, how those who say, “I am ready to fight with you,”

 Are the very ones who run when your fights are ensued…

They yell and holler that they stand with you side by side, strong in the trenches

Yet, when you look around to find them they are on the sidelines 

just watching you from the benches….

It’s Ironic, when you call them out on their words that they so passionately revealed to you

And they say without reservation, “Oh that? you know I say so much and I had so many other things to do…”

It’s Ironic, but understandable too…

That words that are spoken by others are not always virtuous and true

Once you understand the importance of your very own words

The irony of what others say becomes somewhat absurd

Because as you know and work to remain unblemished in your very own words and views

You realize how it affects the nature of the people in your life you choose

It’s Ironic…..

~Racquel Dozier~

Roc's Poetic Justic

Copyright © 2011

Action, Action

Words are great but if they aren't backed up with actions they mean nothing.

Sometimes I wonder why people say things they don't mean. When you speak you should mean what you say and leave nothing to be misunderstood. If you say you will support then you have to do what it takes to support especially when that person has supported you to the fullest.

Some folks just talk to get things for themselves. They talk to hear themselves and don't hear what you need.  They boast how much they have your back but do nothing to back those words up with real actions. But, as soon as they need you they are on the horn asking for your support and like a good sport you give it.   No questions asked pow right on the spot Johnny making it happen.

Some people are so busy with their own lives they forget to live and help the ones that help them. They are way too busy doing other things to even take a minute to call or  see what you need.

Sometimes the one who gives so much needs someone to give and support them.

Just a thought..... Actions are better than words. Words are great and are important but they fall on deaf ears if no action is taken behind them.

Action, Action we want action A-C-T.....I-ON!

I'm a SuperWoman

MY SONG OF THE CENTURY!!!! IT'S BEEN A ROUGH YEAR BUT THAT MEANS NOTHING BC EVEN WHEN I'M A MESS I PUT ON A VEST WITH A "S" ON MY CHEST...

Although I know even as a SuperWoman I have to put my cape to the side every now and again,  am so excited that God has implanted in me a FIGHTIING WARRIOR SPIRIT that allows me to GET THROUGH ANYTHING THAT IS THROWN AT ME! I'M A SUPERWOMAN ONLY BC GOD IS A SUPER FORCE BEHIND ME!

Melody from Heaven

Sometimes we miss those we love so much. We forget that this earth suit is not always the best place for everyone to be at all times. Today I am counting my blessings for the time I had with the ones that have shed their earth suit. It's a hard process but a much needed one to heal. I thank God for the Melodies From Heaven He sends at the right time, the exact moment I need them!~Racquel~

She jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She said: ‘How is my little boy? Is he going to be all right? When can I see him?’

The surgeon said, ‘I’m sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn’t make it.’

Sally said, ‘Why do little children get cancer? Doesn’t God care any more? Where were you, God, when my son needed you?’

The surgeon asked, ‘Would you like some time alone with your son? One of the nurses will be out in a few minutes, before he’s transported to the university.’

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good bye to son… She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair. ‘Would you like a lock of his hair?’ the nurse asked. Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy’s hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally.

The mother said, ‘It was Jimmy’s idea to donate his body to the University for Study. He said it might help somebody else. ‘I said no at first, but Jimmy said, ‘Mom, I won’t be using it after I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom.’ She went on, ‘My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone else. Always wanting to help others if he could.’

Sally walked out of Children’s Mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy’s belongings on the seat beside her in the car.

The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy’s belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son’s room.

She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them. She lay down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Lying beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The letter said:

‘Dear Mom,

I know you’re going to miss me; but don’t think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just ’cause I’m not around to say ‘I Love You’. I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again.

Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won’t be so lonely, that’s okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn’t like the same things us boys do. You’ll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know.

Don’t be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn’t look like any of his pictures… Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him.

Jesus himself took me to see GOD! And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God’s knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That’s when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn’t allowed. Well, you know what Mom? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you.

God told me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him where was He when I needed him?’ ‘God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children.’

Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I’ve written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn’t that cool? I have to give God His pen back now He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper.. I’m sure the food will be great.

Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don’t hurt anymore the cancer is all gone.. I’m glad because I couldn’t stand that pain anymore and God couldn’t stand to see me hurt so much, either. That’s when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?

Signed with Love

from God, Jesus & Me.

Be Your Own Incredible

I really think this is a really cute photo but....... 

I can't help but think the reason why many feel like President Obama hasn't done much is because they thought that he was some super hero that could do all... One man is not capable of 

changing an already crazy mixed up world by himself. I think people need to realize that it's easier if we become the incredibles in our own communities in order to lend the helping hand and save ourselves. No politician can do that, it really starts with us and works its way up. No president has or will ever be prefect for all people and we shouldn't expect any man to be. We do need to determine who will be best fit to be the most fair to all. I think many need to remove the "super hero" expectation of presidents and start becoming their own heroes at home and in their communities. Although they are depicted as the incredibles even super heroes get help from the citizens....

Knowing...

Power is in the KNOWING!!!! Know that your closest friend will talk behind your back (((OUCH)))... Know that some people will not like you even though you did nothing to them (((OUCH))).. Know that your heart will be broken by someone you love (((OUCH))).. Know that sometimes life isn't fair (((OUCH)))... Know that when you are down some people will rejoice in your misfortune(((OUCH))).. 

So now that we know there will be pain focus on knowing THIS (((((No matter how deep the cut is or how much it sting God supplied you with the ultimate pain reliever))) The power of Knowing (((huhhhhhh)))). Know when to pray, know when to walk away, know when the battle is not yours, know that there is power in your thoughts, know that you are human, know that you are more than a conqueror and know that you are never alone.  ~ Yes I Am My Sister's Keeper ~

My thoughts.....There is power in knowing and it is healing power. Sometimes the things described above will happen in your life no doubt, but when you know, it gives you a sense of power and understanding. A way to prepare for the next step whether you need to pray or walk away. To know is better than being left in the dark. 


When you know you are able to allow God to work in you to realize what needs to be done.


The dictionary defines to know as to perceive or understand as fact or truth; to apprehend clearly and with certainty....Everyone wants to be clear on things. Not only on who you are to them or what you meant by a statement but on all things in life. No one wants to live in the dark in wonderment. We all want to be clear and concise as to wants going on. Sometimes people don't understand the importance of being in the know. That is not to say you must know anything and everything, it just means you need to know about things that directly affect your life. 


It helps to know that you are never alone in anything that you do and it helps to be clear on things that will have an effect on you personally. It helps to know! 


Racquel
Be Blessed, Be Encouraged & Be a Blessing!

Communication Basics

Just because you don't like what I'm saying doesn't mean I'm "complaining" or that I don't "understand" you or that I am not on your "intellectual" level. It's called communication and discussion and that consists of different opinions. When you learn to respect how people think and communicate differently, you can remove the condescending veil to communicate more effectively....

When communicating with others be it in person, on the phone, via text or the internet one shouldn't strive to be vocal and only see their opinion. One shouldn't take moments to toot their own horns in verbiage that is harmful to another.


It amazes me how much people want to be heard but very rarely want to listen. There are so many different angles of every situation.  In every discussion there will be times when emotion will run wild. But, as adults it is our job to see that and step back to create an effective way to communicate those emotions in the most productive way.

 I communicate effectively and I have patience. I love to debate and discuss. The thing is people tend to want to talk just to hear themselves talk and to be right instead of trying to be effective in their communications. To show what their intellect is and point out where others are at fault.....It's a shame that one's intellect can overshadow effectiveness. What's the purpose of having intellect if common sense is thrown out the window? There comes a time when when you realize that your words come with reactions and you can't be surprised if your communications are jaded and one sided if someone calls you out on it.  

The purpose of communication is to exchange ideas, to see both sides to agree or disagree but to do so effectively.  You want to avoid misunderstanding and a break in the communication.

Honestly poor communication is worse than no communication at all... I would rather a person sit in silence before opening up a can of worms of misunderstandings and jaded views.

For me, if you can't communicate effectively please don't communicate with me at all. No I don't expect communications to be perfect but I do expect a fair and balanced discussion in order to really tap into the fullness of each person I communicate with.

Be Blessed, Be Encouraged & Be a Blessing,

Racquel

“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”

Who will....

When all is said and done when I'm done helping others, who is there to help me?

When I'm done hugging and loving others..who will hug and love me?

When I take the "S" off my chest and put the cape in the drawer...who will be my Superperson to come to my rescue?

Who will treat me half as good as I treat others, without expectation and requirement of payment in some shape or fashion?

Who will do that for me when I cease to do it for others.....

I know ONE that will and always steps in right on time...... When I am alone and can only call on HIM...When my thoughts are overwhelmed and discombobulated, I can get clarity from HIM....Man can not give me the comfort or support really needed.... So Who Will????

I know Who will, it's not of human nature and He never fails or lets me down!







Be Blessed, Be Encouraged & Be a Blessing,
Racquel

Mothers Day Reflections

Today as I sit outside in my backyard on this beautiful spring day I reflect.
You would think that I would want  a large breakfast and to be catered to all day.... But honestly this time that I have to simply sit and reflect without interruption, drinking a hot cup of coffee, with a nice spring breeze blowing listening to the birds sing their songs is just enough to make it the perfect day.... Silence just me and my thoughts!

Reflection....

I reflect on my mother and her strength. I remember no matter what my mother was always mom. Caring, loving, strong and full of God's Love.
I reflect on my mother who was only with ME for 9 years giving me lessons that didn't last the moment but have stuck and lasted a lifetime.
I reflect on my mother and the teachings that have made me the woman I am today.
I reflect on the times we shared, the love she gave, the kisses she bestowed and the hugs she gave me daily.
I reflect.... I reflect on those times not only on this day but everyday.  I reflect.....

I miss my mother and her loving touch, her hand on my hair, her hand in mine....I miss her voice... her eyes on me... her talking to me and my siblings....Reading to me... and just her being my mom......I miss her so dearly...I miss that she could not attend my graduation or be in the front seat at my wedding...or hold my only son.... I miss her being able to do all these things but in my heart I know she has always been here sharing those moments with me in spirit. I have felt her hold me when I was down...I have felt her touch me when I needed that loving touch of mom... I have felt her kiss me when I needed someone to place a touch on my cheek in trying times... I have felt her hold my hand when I felt my hands couldn't do anything but hold hers...I have felt her say I Love You when I felt lonely and everyone around me judged me and said they hated me...I've felt her there with me.....I miss my mother but I love that she is with me and continues to love me abundantly!

I reflect on being a mother and knowing and realizing what a blessed woman I really am. My son has shown me what true love is really about and I am so grateful that God saw me fit to be his mother, his confidant, the first woman that teaches him how to love.

Finally, I reflect on those who stood in the gap when my mother was no longer physically with me. First I reflect on my sister.... My sister who was a young woman starting her own life stood in the gap and cared for me and my brother. There is a lot to be said about my sister but one thing she didn't do was say no or that she would not. I reflect on my aunt who also stood in the gap to care for me. She didn't have to but she did. I reflect on all of the women that were mothers to me without even knowing it. The words, the thoughts the talks, the gentle reminders, the hardcore beat downs that keep me moving from day to day.

I am so appreciative of all the women that play a role in shaping me, in making me who I am today. Who continue to inspire me and create a me that is so proud to be a product of the wonderful women in my life.

Reflections.... I reflect from day to day, but today my reflections come with such love and admiration for the mothers in my life. I am so blessed to have so many you have made a difference in some way. Today I take the time to say THANK YOU! You all may not hear me or ever see this but I say it with the love that you have instilled in me.


Be Blessed, Be Encouraged and Be a Blessing,
Racquel

Just A Random Late Night Thought

Some people really don't know how to be a friend and when you remove yourself from the equation they always tend to miss what they finally realized they had. But sometimes its too late, no one wants to be a footstool to another because the other person can't handle their anger. Just a thought. Friendships are important so I wonder why people don't take them seriously....

Friendships are essential for the soul, yet many allow petty things to get in the way of them. When will people learn that if you swear to be friend it should be till the end, not until one gets an attitude or gets angry. Although I know friendships change as people change, true friendships surpass those changes and grow right along with those that change. 

Life is too short to hold anger and to ruin friendships over the anger that we can't get over. The person still goes on with their lives, they are hurt, but the dont stay waiting to see if another can get past their hurt. They move on and live, but you sit in anger thinking it hurts them when it really hurts you more.

A real friend understands that no one is perfect and that sometimes the friendship will be tested. It's up to us as friends to get past all of the tests and still love and care for one another genuinely instead of conditionally....

Just A Random Late Night Thought....

Late nights provide a quiet place in my mind to think!

 Racquel,

Be Blessed, Be Encouraged and Be a Blessing!

Women Be Proud!

WOMEN BE PROUD OF YOURSELVES We "WOMEN" have strengths that amazes man. We can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens, we hold happiness, love and opinions, we smile when feeling like screaming. We women one of the most beautiful creation of God, showering our respect as a daugther, feel our care in the form of a sister, feel our warmth in the form of a friend. Why did God create man fisrt before creating a woman? Of course because its always good to make a rough draft first before making a MASTER PIECE. We can do anything we put to mind to. We can swim the deepest ocean and climb the highest peak. Be a doctor or fly a plane. We can face adversity and still walk tall. We are strong, beautiful, compassionate and much more than words could ever say! I AM HAPPY AND PROUD TO BE A WOMAN! BE PROUD IN BEING YOU AND WALK IN THAT CONFIDENCE AND LOVE OF SELF! Be Blessed, Be Encouraged, and Be a Blessing! ~Racquel~

Real Talk!

You may feel lost and alone but God knows exactly where you're at, and He has a plan for your life...

REAL TALK 


We are all fighting some sort of battle. I know that it gets hard. I just want to encourage you all to keep striving, keep believing, keep that small grain of mustard seed faith to pull you through. Life is never easy and our backs have been burdened by so much....


We have to just keep walking and standing in the midst of it all and not allow anything to break our spirits. Make a conscious effort to take those trials and turn them into triumphs and allow yourself to ride the storm out until you get to the shore. 


Keep your heads up know that if no one else loves you, God does! 


Be Blessed, Be Encouraged & Be a Blessing!


~Racquel~

No More!!!!

I said 

"NO MORE!" 
Does anyone out there get this?! 


NO MORE will I keep my mouth shut simply because what I have to say makes other people uneasy. 


NO MORE will I stifle my own truths just because YOU may be uncomfortable with them. 


NO MORE will I march to the beat of a different drummer just because that is the drummer that someone else prefers for me. I am done with keeping my mouth and my life quiet simply because it is easier that way for someone else. I intend, from this day forward, to live my life OUT LOUD and not give a damn about where the chips may fall...

Turning the volume up.........

Living Out Loud and on Purpose!

I Am ME!

I am me. I’m who I’m meant to be. I am a product of my past, the look of my present and the hope in the future of who I want to be. I’m not anyone else but me and I am pleased to be free in me. I am a definite work in progress with a positive strong destiny. I am who I choose to be. I am ME ~RHD~

All I can be is myself, I don't try and be someone else. I am the best ME! No one is better than the ME I already am. I Always strive to be better but I thoroughly enjoy the ME I am in today! I am certifiably me and that's the best I can be. 

Be Blessed, Be Encouraged, and Be a Blessing!


Racquel

Remove the Fear!

How many fears are holding you back? How would you live if you had no fear at all? Without feeling the emotion of fear, would you be more willing to take risks, especially when the worst case wouldn't actually hurt you at all? What kind of difference would that make in your life?


Ambrose Redmoon stated, "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear."

You must find something else that is more important than fear!  We cannot defeat fear, but we can remove power from fear by not feeding fear, by not accepting fear. Unless fear is sustained, fear cannot survive, and this is how we will transform our own life, by removing fear, and responding with love.

Fear does not stop death....It stops Life! 

Take action to avoid the paralysis that fearful thoughts can place on you living.