Domestic violence should not happen to anybody. Ever. Period. But it does - and when it does, there is help. Maybe you have lived with abuse, maybe it happened just once; maybe you work or live next to someone who is being abused right now. Don't take a backseat extend your hand to assist his/her life may depend on it.

Freedom’s Reign

The SLAP of your hand did NOT motivate me

It betrayed my trust in you and destroyed the ME I wanted to be!

Although you say you love me with all of your might,

Must I feel that might with constant physical fights?

Your knee in my chest, your hand around my throat

Should’ve been a sign to me that this relationship wouldn’t float.

The pain you cause me is unsuitable to my mind,

I become weak and disorganized unable to find….

Unable to find my way to complete overdue freedom

From you and the madness and overexposed mayhem.

Today I am here to let you know once and for all,

That I will no longer be your punching bag on the living room wall.

I stand before you strong and ever so tall.

With a preparedness to strike back and never again to fall.

You see right now I OWN YOU with the Strength of My GOD,

With the attitude to back it up and a mind racing like a hot rod.

No longer will I be a part of your agonizing bliss,

You must suffer alone now, never to be missed.

I can say I loved you, but your returned love hurt too bad.

I can no longer live my life in fear and anger feeling sorrowful and sad.

Now I must leave you to meet my FREEDOM WHO REIGNS

Away from you and the madness the constant hurt and pain.

Racquel Dozier

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Choices....

We each have choices !!......


One reader sends me a message- ‘Is this all u do online?  Gosh you are 
always online... I can't go a day without one of your posts you post too much...’……….

I do try to post as much as I can in-between work, family, life and other things! I really like Facebook because it offers me an opportunity to really reach a lot of people about things I am passionate about like Lupus Awareness, Lupus Support, Love, Living a positive life and  making people laugh....


Supporting people is a very big part of my life and something which I 'choose' to dedicate as much of my time to as possible - both online and in person. It's what I do......It's what I love and is really what gets me moving from day to day....


I really am trying to support people and afford them an opportunity to laugh and get some things off their chest...and discuss some serious and fun things. But I understand my page is not for everyone. So with that....If you find my posts are too many for you or are not your style and they're filling your newsfeed you can either 'hide' my posts from showing on your page and visit my page as you like or 'unfriend' me and just visit my blog anytime at your leisure. 


I appreciate all of the support that is given and the love that is always shown by those who enjoy the things that I show on my page.


Have a GREAT day. {{{hugs}}}


Rocky

Love Jones Minute: Want to be Loved

We all want to be loved, to be happy. So why aren’t we? Because we’ve become experts at sabotaging our own happiness. Feeling like victims, when in fact it’s the choices we make, the bad habits, the vices, the inability to show love and compassion. These are the things that tear us down. We’re not victims. We’re assassins when it comes to love and happiness....


Every choice you make produces a consequence that is either positive or negative.  People say they are miserable YET they live life day to day and NEVER change it. Think about this, the ONLY one who can change is YOU. The unknown can be YOUR biggest blessing. Change YOUR mind, YOUR way of thinking, the people YOU surround yourself with, change YOUR surroundings, and maybe you'll find a BIG change in you.

Happiness is based on you and your actions. Stop assassinating your happiness and love.  Love doesn't demand to be loved back, but it doesn't mean it exists to be taken for granted either.....Remember happiness does not come as a result of something you receive but from recognizing all that you have. When you do this the want to be loved will be filled with love itself.


It's a Love Jones Minute
It only takes a minute to increase love awareness....


Racquel

Importance of Women & Friendships

I have just two women in my life who “get” me and I know would have my back in any circumstance and I theirs. There is nothing like it. I would not know what to do without these two great women and the strength they have given me in my worst times of need and have returned the favor, as well. These are the women who I want in my life. The women that show that sisterhood means so much more than blood lines!

In my life, friendships with women have been and are immensely valuable. Today, I am thinking on the importance of women’s friendships.

Throughout my life I have experienced the importance of having friendships with women. Talking,  laughing, growing stronger with each other... All very  important in your walk through life.  There are many studies that point to the health benefits of female friendships.

But you know female relationships are very difficult. We see this daily in our walk in life and even on social networks like facebook. I was thinking how sad it is when women resort to attacks in person and on social networks without really knowing the whole person or situation. Then I began to think in terms of women and how we interact. It has become such a problem for women just to get along without the ugliness coming out.

There was a point in my life where I didn't really trust many women. I didn't want to be bothered with them and their drama and nonsense. But life is different now. I am settled and content, and as I tune into my own gifts as a woman, I recognize those same gifts in other women. And, I am passionate about celebrating these gifts of sisterhood.

As I grew in me, I realized that jealousy is tacky. As I begin to celebrate the gifts of sisterhood I instead believe that we as women should admire each other's beauty and let it inspire us. Tearing each other down only shows others just how ugly a person you really are. It is  time to go out and celebrate how awesome you are by forming awesome connections with your female friends. Women we need to unite and make our relationships stronger. It's time to renew that bond with other women and make productive and loving sisterly connections.

We can not let ourselves become to busy to appreciate the encouragement, teaching, love and support that comes from relationships with other women. 

Be Blessed, Be Encouraged & Be a Blessing
Racquel

In a Love Jones Minute.....

Too often, we attach our happiness to the choices of others.  When we put demands like this on our relationships, we give our power away. This is self defeating.

How many times have you heard yourself say things like, "I will be happy when he/she tells me they love me", "Once they commit to me I will  be happy", "I will be happy once he..." and the list can go on but you get the jest of what is being said....

Happiness is what you make it and it's within your control. You don't need a relationship to define it and in the end when you realize this you begin to maintain and draw healthier relationships to you. That doesn't mean you go around broadcasting I don't need no man or woman to define me... No that is not what is being said. But, you must realize with your Real Eyes that happiness comes from you being happy with yourself not someone else being happy or drawn to you.

Your attitude is the foundation of your relationships in your life. If you are content and in love with yourself, fulfillment will surely follow.  Remember happy relationships are all about attitude.

Change your relationship with yourself, love yourself wholly and the relationships around you will change too!

It's a Love Jones Minute
It only takes a minute to increase love awareness


Racquel

FB Wars, Just Nuts!

I was wondering last night if people say they are family,friends, associates, or whatever, why do they show so much hate on the next person if they dont know each other in real life? Why am I seeing more and more what I call FB wars? People trying to call people out on things they don't really know anything about or trying to tell people off "indiscreetly" when in person they never took the opportunity to even speak candidly to them? Is facebook becoming the new cowardly way to try and be the big man or woman on campus and get clout with hurtful words and assumptions?

I mean time and time again I see so many people just going off on folks on FB and they have no clue about the person or their lives. Yet they believe it is important to try and lay folks out and say their piece in the most rude and hateful manner. It's like it's a bunch of two year olds having temper tantrums.  I imagine when they go on these tirades they are falling out on the floor with their computer or their cell phone in a fit of rage crying and screaming. 

I mean is a person's life so bad that they resort to this type of communication to people they don't even know? Is a person so insecure that they allow something that is said on FB to put them in such a rage that they can't even communicate as an adult? It amazes me how people revert to being a 9 year old on the playground throwing sand at the ones they don't like or didn't do like they wanted them to do.

You know in life we have to learn to communicate effectively and not take the cowards way out and resort to posting to FB to get our point across. FB is a great tool to reconnect and spread your knowledge and expertise on subjects and meet new people. But it has become increasingly negative when folks resort to taking a problem they have with someone that they don't even know to the typing pad to make themselves feel good.

I guess people will be people and will do whatever makes them fell good about themselves. I just wish  that they would THINK before they TYPE and realize that there are no kudo points, no prizes, not getting from being the big bad FB keep it real only on FB type. I mean get it off of your chest while pounding your chest and showing your fangs never really works for adults, it doesn't even really work for children and that's why we teach them not to do it. 

I don't know maybe I'm the one that has it all wrong, I doubt it, but you know I always have to look at the entire picture. After looking at myself I have realized I'm pretty on point with this one. When situations like the "call out" is seen by me, I just have to shake my head and wonder where is that person hurting most? I wonder why their lives are so consumed with others that they can't focus enough to realize that FB is not the right route to take to talk to someone about an issue you may have with them.  Most time the tirades are way off of what the perception really is....I can't take part in the FB Wars. If someone has something they really need to get off their chest with me and they know me well enough to have my number I would prefer they call. If I answer cool if not that means I don't want to argue at that time LOL I am happy my life is in a place where I don't need to participate in the wars on FB. I'll stick to just blogging about them LOL
I just hope people realize that it's cowardly to take it to FB and try and hurt and call out people. In the end you harm yourself more than anything else.

Peace & Hairgrease Ya'll
Rocky

Love Resistance is Futile

Many women resist love. They are the caregivers, but they are afraid to be taken care of. They are so busy taking care of others that they neglect to accept the love that is given to them. Women often allow the resistance to hold them back from true love and intimacy.

Sometimes a woman wants to be timate, but she is held back by shame. Too often women are allowing shame to dictate what intimacy really is to them. They become fearful of intimate moments because of the shame and taboo carried with intimacy and love day to day.

Women, don't allow fear, shame and doubt to eat away at your self-esteem. Today, decide the course YOU want to take. Don’t always feel compelled to flow with the current wave of resistance.
Allow yourself to be loved and cared for and the love will flow in abundance to you.

Resistance is futile assimilate to the love that is waiting for you!