T.G.I.F

T.G.I.F T.hinking G.ood I.s F.reeing. You can't keep thinking and harboring on the negative and allowing it to keep you in bondage. You have to change what you focus on. Try thinking good and seeing good and get free. There is power in what you focus on. Remember, what you think and speak will come to an existence in your life, so don't be a slave to negative thoughts. Get free, be free, live free in good thoughts. Start by changing your self talk and thought. Everything is not bad, in fact it's all better than you allow yourself to believe. T.G.I.F T.hinking G.ood I.s F.reeing!

Good and Greatness in You

I read this on the Internet and thought how true. ...

"To often are we misunderstood, kindness is mistaken for flirting, politeness and proper home training are viewed as an open invitation, lady like behavior is stuck up and/or insulting to those in interest, loyalty is stupidity and honesty is "ratting someone out".  No longer can we continue to willingly ignore the odds, truth is - everyone has a choice to treat others as they want to be treated, unfortunately not everyone does right, therefore a domino effect is created .. people become defensive, from the beginning expecting the worse in others ... until proven worthy of kindness and all it conveys.. its truly sad... yet for the belief of the good in all people -  we try nevertheless.. if Jesus himself was mistreated... I guess such behavior is to be expected.. unfortunate because who knows what people are going through, and how a simple kind gesture, someone sincerely willing to help... can change a heart.. yet, malice seems to have the upper hand.. resulting in humanity always being on defense,  therefore always expecting the worse from people - making true friendships at risk of being extinct"

Then I reflected. .. I came to the conclusion that, no matter what others believe and do,  we must be vigilant in being the person we desire to be. We can't allow what others are tainted with to destroy the good in us. We have to treat others kindly and with the true love instilled inside us to share.  Yes many would want us to fall to the defensive and question those around us if they are true.  But we as individuals we should know that the universe can not survive with the negative reactions of kind and that karma is only a bitch if you are.

So... we sit and reflect and learn that we can only control our own actions, our own thoughts,  our own reactions to the crazy way that people spin things that are meant for good. In the end the way others see things and place them in your universal path can only be counteracted with every fiber of good and greatness in us.

It's Today

These days parents are not as involved in their kids lives...the village doesn't raise the child...men are no longer gentlemen bc they are too busy trying to prove their manhood..... women are too busy thinking like men and claiming independence to a fault and can't be ladies.....I have to go to the store to get milk when it used to be delivered...tvs are larger and people are fatter. ..teachers don't care and school is just preparation for a test.....gas is high and moral is low... money has changed but the value stays the same.... people care less and harm more...and times have changed yet stayed the same. 

We have to see the difference from yesterday to today but we can't live in the desire to be in yesteryear and not work on what today brings. Stop looking back look right in front of you. It's Today so live in it.

Stop The Negative

To point out the negative of someone or something all of the time shows what type of person you really are. No one, nothing, is all negative. No matter if you don't like the person, whether you don't like what they do or whether you just can't stand anything about them, it's all a reflection of your own issues of self love and seeing beyond the negative.

When you point one finger remember three are pointing back at you. Instead of pointing out the negative of a person or a situation try seeing what's good about them and the situation, if you can't do that then you yourself have a real issue that you need to take care of immediately.

Most times when we see the negative and find the need to point them out over and over again, it keeps us stuck in a spiral of harmful talk not only for those we talk about but ourselves.

Real Talk...stop talking negative about people, places, situations and things. It only shows the negative in you.

Breath of Life

The best part of waking up, is waking up and experiencing a most amazing morning with that breath of life blown into your beautiful body! Instead of complaining about how tired you are, or how you don't want to go to work, or fussing about something that happened yesterday that you can't change..... Try being thankful for a magnificent day just being alive. You deserve the opportunity to live without constraints of negative thinking. When you feel the need to complain, state "I Won't Complain." Try it, you just may like it and your day will change with your concerted talk to make it so!

Be Blessed, Be a Blessing and Be Encouraged

It amazes me

It amazes me the life I live. The things I have been blessed to experience and the people I am ecstatic to have in my corner.

They say God never gives you more than you can bear and I know this first hand to be true. When you feel like you can't go on He places the right people...the perfect things...the just right on time situations to let you see the blessings that surround you as aides to get you to where He needs you to be.

Yes sometimes the road we have to travel is difficult and can weigh heavily on us as we carry our loads.  Yes we will cry,  get angry,throw fits and fall out. We have to release that in order to move on.

Once we release it we are able to see the brighter day ahead. We just cant give up, can't give in abd can't let it get us down.

You know the poem, Mother to Son by Langston Hughes.Well, son, I’ll tell you:Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.It’s had tacks in it,And splinters,And boards torn up,And places with no carpet on the floor—Bare.But all the time I’se been a-climbin’ on,And reachin’ landin’s,And turnin’ corners,And sometimes goin’ in the dark Where there ain’t been no light.So boy, don’t you turn back.Don’t you set down on the steps’Cause you finds it’s kinder hard.Don’t you fall now—For I’se still goin’, honey,I’se still climbin’,And life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.

I memorized that poem at 9 who would have thought it would apply to me as an adult.

I won't fall now. ..I'm still going...climbing...

My life. ..it's not an easy one but it sure is one that I will live to the fullest. Falls, scrapes and all!

The Sentimental Mom

Embrace the time with your children and make it quality time together. Time moves so fast and in a blink of an eye they are developing in your womb, in the next blink they are in diapers and in the very next breath before you blink again, they are driving and coming into adulthood.  The growth happens so quickly, make sure you love them more than you scold them, kiss them more than you curse them and spend quality time nurturing them more than you leave them to provide a way of life. Teach them to work smart instead of hard, how to love it through instead of being hate consumed and most of all, love them immensely through all of their good and bad days and abundantly give them the right example to follow. You owe it to them and you deserve that for yourself. 

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RANT OF THE DAY

RANT OF THE DAY BECAUSE I CAN

Unbelievable the media and the crap they put out there. There is no damn reason they should show people being killed black it out and you can hear them dying from shots to the head. UnFreakinBelievable! My mind and soul are too open to watch or listen to that crap. I care too much to be cold to the sounds and view of death. It is sickening, it is disgusting! And what's worse is that people rather talk about women's breasts and ass.... or about shows that are made to degrade women and relationships..... or which rapper is dissing who and someone's father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle was gagged bound and shot with no remorse...not a care... not a discussion. What a Sick Disgusting  world we live in where it's ok to highlight cold death before it is ok to highlight a child's accomplishment... What a crazy world we live in where it's ok to judge people instead of empathizing with what they have been through. It is absolutely disgusting!

That Beautiful Someone

It’s beautiful when you find someone that is in love with your mind. Someone that wants to undress your conscience and make love to your thoughts. Someone that wants to watch you slowly take down all the walls you’ve built up around your mind and let them inside.

When I read the above I thought it was so profound. I had to add....

It's beautiful when you find someone who doesn't make love to you but brings the love out of you. Someone who removes themselves to enter the pinnacle dimension in your soul. Someone that rises with you spiritually to a the highest plane of life's existence.

It's beautiful when you find someone!

~RHD~

Be Encouraged, Be Blessed & Be a Blessing
Racquel

Be willing to sip a little silence so you don't have to guzzle a gallon of regret. Don't let your emotions get the best of you when you are hurt or angry. Be patient and think before reacting. When you do this you are able to be clear in your understanding of all situations. Stay in the clear and don't fear taking a breath before reacting.  

~Racquel~

Be encouraged, Be blessed and Be a Blessing! 

YOU HAVE TO BE RESILIENT

It takes more than love to keep a relationship together.

Too many are looking for the fairy tale and are not willing to do the work.

There will be issues, there will be problems. You cant let every little thing push you away. You must be resilient!

Be Happy Anyway!

You believe folks are generally happy for you when you succeed or when you do well. But the reality is they can't see past their own issues to be happy for themselves so they could hardly be happy for you. Don't let their issues stop you from being you and being happy in being you! Many align themselves with people they feel they have things in common with, unfortunately happiness is not always a common place for others to be in. 

Be happy in your space anyway!

Racquel
"Be Blessed, Be Encouraged and Be a Blessing!"

Thank You Lord!

Thank you Lord for our long talks, the presence of a smile, the given opportunity for me to laugh, a beautiful essence of a sweet smell, the hearing of your voice within me.... but most of all thank you for your loving tender kisses and your bountiful hugs that uplift me when I can't uplift myself.

Act Like A Lady

You can't act like a lady if you are busy trying to be the man! Real Talk Men and Women are NOT equal that's why we are named different. Stop trying to be the man and be the lady you were meant to be. That doesn't make you less than, it makes you who you really are. If you were meant to be the man you'd have his male parts not in between your legs but between your legs..... Act like a lady, stop trying to be the man!

Mother's Day Reflections

Mother's Day Reflections

Today as I sit outside in my backyard on this beautiful spring day I reflect.
You would think that I would want  a large breakfast and to be catered to all day.... But honestly this time that I have to simply sit and reflect without interruption, drinking a hot cup of coffee, with a nice spring breeze blowing listening to the birds sing their songs is just enough to make it the perfect day.... Silence just me and my thoughts!

Reflection....

I reflect on my mother and her strength. I remember no matter what my mother was always mom. Caring, loving, strong and full of God's Love.
I reflect on my mother who was only with ME for 9 years giving me lessons that didn't last the moment but have stuck and lasted a lifetime.
I reflect on my mother and the teachings that have made me the woman I am today.
I reflect on the times we shared, the love she gave, the kisses she bestowed and the hugs she gave me daily.
I reflect.... I reflect on those times not only on this day but everyday.  I reflect.....

I miss my mother and her loving touch, her hand on my hair, her hand in mine....I miss her voice... her eyes on me... her talking to me and my siblings....Reading to me... and just her being my mom......I miss her so dearly...I miss that she could not attend my graduation or be in the front seat at my wedding...or hold my only son.... I miss her being able to do all these things but in my heart I know she has always been here sharing those moments with me in spirit. I have felt her hold me when I was down...I have felt her touch me when I needed that loving touch of mom... I have felt her kiss me when I needed someone to place a touch on my cheek in trying times... I have felt her hold my hand when I felt my hands couldn't do anything but hold hers...I have felt her say I Love You when I felt lonely and everyone around me judged me and said they hated me...I've felt her there with me.....I miss my mother but I love that she is with me and continues to love me abundantly!

I reflect on being a mother and knowing and realizing what a blessed woman I really am. My son has shown me what true love is really about and I am so grateful that God saw me fit to be his mother, his confidant, the first woman that teaches him how to love.

Finally, I reflect on those who stood in the gap when my mother was no longer physically with me. First I reflect on my sister.... My sister who was a young woman starting her own life stood in the gap and cared for me and my brother. There is a lot to be said about my sister but one thing she didn't do was say no or that she would not. I reflect on my aunt who also stood in the gap to care for me. She didn't have to but she did. I reflect on all of the women that were mothers to me without even knowing it. The words, the thoughts the talks, the gentle reminders, the hardcore beat downs that keep me moving from day to day.

I am so appreciative of all the women that play a role in shaping me, in making me who I am today. Who continue to inspire me and create a me that is so proud to be a product of the wonderful women in my life.

Reflections.... I reflect from day to day, but today my reflections come with such love and admiration for the mothers in my life. I am so blessed to have so many you have made a difference in some way. Today I take the time to say THANK YOU! You all may not hear me or ever see this but I say it with the love that you have instilled in me.


Be Blessed, Be Encouraged and Be a Blessing,
Racquel

Greener Grass.....

I love when the grass is green in my own yard! Too often we look over the fence and marvel at someone else's grass and feel it looks better. Then we begin to work hard at fertilizing our grass and just at that time the rain comes and helps it along. When the rain stops and our vision clears, we see what has planted and been revived to beauty unseen over the fence. It's at that time that we realize the grass isn't greener on the other side, only greener where you fertilize, water and recognize it. ~RHD~

Random Thought Directed

One of the new phrases that just get under my skin is "go kill yourself", this is the most asinine statement I have ever heard. In a world where life is being taken for granted, where it's o.k to make life so insignificant to utter it in everyday statements is sickening. To view people so into "catch phrases" that they remove all common sense in daily vocabulary is disturbing.  When has it become o.k to simply go with the flow of what's wrong instead of doing and acting in what's right? Don't get pulled into the indoctrination of a deadly mindset of not caring and understanding that your words hold power, even if it's just a "catch phrase."  You know better, now DO Better!

Make Sure...

Make sure the person that went to bed last night isn't the same person that has awakened this morning. Remove resentments, anger and all things that can hold you back from being the best you and bringing out the good in you and others.~RHD~

Little things

It's the smallest act that makes a world of difference. A simple hello, a exclamation of I'm thinking of you or a statement saying I haven't forgotten you.  It's the little things that make the biggest statements.~RHD~

Open Yourself

You have to open your life to the good you deserve. Stop shunning your blessings by making them have to pry your fists open to receive them....~RHD~

Thoughts in my head...

Thinking ...

I am so interested in what works to reach people to help them heal the hurts of their heart and minds... I can't compress myself or anyone else into a specific spiritual mold. I never have tried and will never subscribe to that.

I like to see that people are loved in the essence of God than conformed to be a certain way. To me, it's more important to have a healthy heart and mind full of God's love and positive expectations.  It doesn't matter to me whether you agree with me or say things the same way that I say them. What matters is that you see the God in me that challenges you to be free.

Sometimes we try to change others to what we think they need to be spiritually, mentally and physically when in reality we have to allow God to do that. 

I talk to people daily about where they are in life. Are they happy and what they would do to get to a point of satisfaction. Often people are a little lost in answering the questions because they are unhappy with they way they are living. Unhappy with self and therefore unhappy in life.

It takes time to find ourselves in an essence in which we are satisfied with ourselves and others. Unfortunately, many wont be able to find their way due to being blinded by horrible part experiences. 

I suppose in time one comes to the realization that beyond the realms of the very second they are in, lies great fortune that holds something more valuable than gold..... Their heart and spirit to live and rise above it all!


Just thinking.....
These thoughts in my head.....

Exercise Your Right!

I was talking to some people about bearing arms and gun control. I think it's great that we have the "rights" to do things but when we abuse those rights or allow those rights to inundate us to a level of fear and instability that is a problem.  I say, people can bear arms it just needs to be a limit. It can't be a free for all and everyone and anybody gets it. I think the government should limit what is available and place stringent policies on obtaining them. We can't be a country of just give them anything and everything b/c they have the right. We have become a people of give me give me I am entitled it's my right that it is killing the true spirit of freedom.

Exercise your right just realize your rights shouldn't be a vehicle to be a menace to society and just because you have the right doesn't mean it can be done to a crazy extreme!