In a Love Jones Minute.....

Too often, we attach our happiness to the choices of others.  When we put demands like this on our relationships, we give our power away. This is self defeating.

How many times have you heard yourself say things like, "I will be happy when he/she tells me they love me", "Once they commit to me I will  be happy", "I will be happy once he..." and the list can go on but you get the jest of what is being said....

Happiness is what you make it and it's within your control. You don't need a relationship to define it and in the end when you realize this you begin to maintain and draw healthier relationships to you. That doesn't mean you go around broadcasting I don't need no man or woman to define me... No that is not what is being said. But, you must realize with your Real Eyes that happiness comes from you being happy with yourself not someone else being happy or drawn to you.

Your attitude is the foundation of your relationships in your life. If you are content and in love with yourself, fulfillment will surely follow.  Remember happy relationships are all about attitude.

Change your relationship with yourself, love yourself wholly and the relationships around you will change too!

It's a Love Jones Minute
It only takes a minute to increase love awareness


Racquel

FB Wars, Just Nuts!

I was wondering last night if people say they are family,friends, associates, or whatever, why do they show so much hate on the next person if they dont know each other in real life? Why am I seeing more and more what I call FB wars? People trying to call people out on things they don't really know anything about or trying to tell people off "indiscreetly" when in person they never took the opportunity to even speak candidly to them? Is facebook becoming the new cowardly way to try and be the big man or woman on campus and get clout with hurtful words and assumptions?

I mean time and time again I see so many people just going off on folks on FB and they have no clue about the person or their lives. Yet they believe it is important to try and lay folks out and say their piece in the most rude and hateful manner. It's like it's a bunch of two year olds having temper tantrums.  I imagine when they go on these tirades they are falling out on the floor with their computer or their cell phone in a fit of rage crying and screaming. 

I mean is a person's life so bad that they resort to this type of communication to people they don't even know? Is a person so insecure that they allow something that is said on FB to put them in such a rage that they can't even communicate as an adult? It amazes me how people revert to being a 9 year old on the playground throwing sand at the ones they don't like or didn't do like they wanted them to do.

You know in life we have to learn to communicate effectively and not take the cowards way out and resort to posting to FB to get our point across. FB is a great tool to reconnect and spread your knowledge and expertise on subjects and meet new people. But it has become increasingly negative when folks resort to taking a problem they have with someone that they don't even know to the typing pad to make themselves feel good.

I guess people will be people and will do whatever makes them fell good about themselves. I just wish  that they would THINK before they TYPE and realize that there are no kudo points, no prizes, not getting from being the big bad FB keep it real only on FB type. I mean get it off of your chest while pounding your chest and showing your fangs never really works for adults, it doesn't even really work for children and that's why we teach them not to do it. 

I don't know maybe I'm the one that has it all wrong, I doubt it, but you know I always have to look at the entire picture. After looking at myself I have realized I'm pretty on point with this one. When situations like the "call out" is seen by me, I just have to shake my head and wonder where is that person hurting most? I wonder why their lives are so consumed with others that they can't focus enough to realize that FB is not the right route to take to talk to someone about an issue you may have with them.  Most time the tirades are way off of what the perception really is....I can't take part in the FB Wars. If someone has something they really need to get off their chest with me and they know me well enough to have my number I would prefer they call. If I answer cool if not that means I don't want to argue at that time LOL I am happy my life is in a place where I don't need to participate in the wars on FB. I'll stick to just blogging about them LOL
I just hope people realize that it's cowardly to take it to FB and try and hurt and call out people. In the end you harm yourself more than anything else.

Peace & Hairgrease Ya'll
Rocky

Love Resistance is Futile

Many women resist love. They are the caregivers, but they are afraid to be taken care of. They are so busy taking care of others that they neglect to accept the love that is given to them. Women often allow the resistance to hold them back from true love and intimacy.

Sometimes a woman wants to be timate, but she is held back by shame. Too often women are allowing shame to dictate what intimacy really is to them. They become fearful of intimate moments because of the shame and taboo carried with intimacy and love day to day.

Women, don't allow fear, shame and doubt to eat away at your self-esteem. Today, decide the course YOU want to take. Don’t always feel compelled to flow with the current wave of resistance.
Allow yourself to be loved and cared for and the love will flow in abundance to you.

Resistance is futile assimilate to the love that is waiting for you!

Show Me Your Light

When you walk in a room do you bring light with you? No not a flash light, the light of confidence & approachability? Can the people in the room tell when you have arrived or are you the one that brings the gloom? Your attitude reflects in your walk be confident in your walk and a room will brighten as you travel through it.

The world will step aside for a person with clearly defined objectives and a strong desire to attain them. When you are a person of definition and desire you walk a walk of confidence and conviction.  The talk is minimized and your actions begin to speak for you.

A person moving forward with conviction is fearless They move throughout their days with determination, not allowing fear, doubt or others stop them.  Your confidence and conviction shines brightly as you use every step of your day to walk to your true destination. You don't waste time waiting on the right conditions and you understand that there is no perfect time to reach your destination. You make it clear in your walk that the path is clearer as you move forward and not fall back. 

Step aside world, here I come! That's the attitude you should have when you walk your walk throughout each and every day. Make your light shine for all to see, brighten the path you walk from day to day! Show your light make it bright and make it clear!



Be Blessed, Be Encouraged & Be a Blessing,
Racquel

Love Jones Minute

Love Jones minute....

My favourite Country Song is "It's always hard to kiss the lips at Night that has chewed my ASS out all day long". Ladies if you are complaining and yapping all day do you think your man wants to come home and kiss that dirty mouth? Men if you are bad mouthing and criticizing  your woman every minute, do you think she wants to kiss your filthy lips.... We must communicate and act better with one another. No one wants to be with anyon who is full of negative talk all day and trying to kiss them with yuck mouth....Clean it up and maybe, just maybe them lips will be ready for kissing....

This has been your Love Jones minute thought of the day!

Love Jones Word of the Day

The Love Jones Word of the Day:

Don't make excuses for a love that's not right for you. While you are steady trying to fit a round peg into a square hole the person has ACTUALLY got tired of YOU and moved on with their life. Stop trying to make romance with someone that is not looking for romance with you. If your description of them is full of “if onlys” it isn’t love. If you are waiting for them to DO something and yearning for them in your life when they have clearly stated they are not interested, it isn’t love. It’s obsession. Or perceived ownership...Or some other foolishness that is going to leave you brokenhearted or mad as hell when it doesn’t work out. Because it won’t. You can't drag a person to the top of your love mountain. They must be willing to climb and take the journey on their own. The point is: Live. Love yourself and stop trying to force another to love you. Don't guilt a person, stress a person or suffocate a person that is clearly not meant for you. Some people are not meant to be your lover they are meant to only be your friend. Know the difference!

The Storm is coming

So the storm is coming, you know it.. The meteorologist are tracking it and have predicted it is coming your way..... Usually, with the technology they are able to really see and track its progress and determine the wind speed and how much rain will come.  Sometimes they are right on track other times they are way off... So you will prepare and get all things in order to ride it out right? You get all the neccessities you fill your prescriptions, you get the water and the non-perishables in order to be prepared. As the storm is coming through your area you do everything to stay safe and make sure the family is straight. You play cards, if you have electricity you watch tv, you talk, you read and you hear the storm and tell your children it's ok the storm will pass over and we will be fine.  After the storm you tell your children see I told you everything was fine. The kids go outside and play you take inventory as to what still stands and what was tossed over. Those things that stand you thank God it is still standing and those things that were tossed and toppled over and broken you toss in the garbage.  You keep the things that are still good and toss the things that are of no more use to you. Then you move forward with your day and continue to live your life.

Well life works the same way.  Sometimes we can predict our storms other times we are way off like a regular meterorolgist.  Those storms we can predict come from the actions we took that we knew would create a storm and those that we can't are the things that happen in life.  When we go through one storm we learn and prepare for the next one.  We try to do everything safe and watch our P's and Q's and prepare our lives in accordance to the storm we have faced, hoping that we prepare well for the next storm to come.  While in our personal storms we still do the things in life to make the storm easier. We may go out with friends, play cards, sing songs, go to  church.  We even tell ourselves and our children that it will all be fine. After your storm you look at yourself and your family and say see that wasn't so bad we survived the storm of life and you begin to take inventory.  Through that storm you realize that life will throw so many storms your way and make the dust fly, make things topple over and even make you scared and shook up! But you thank God you survived and you also realize who's still by your side once everything settles and what matters the most! You keep those people in your life and discard those that were tossed about with the storm and pulled into the eye of it.

So when a storm rises in your life embrace it. When it is over, take the inventory and keep what's still standing and toss the rest to the garbage.  Remember, there is no perfect storm, things aren't always going to be ok. Sometimes all you can do is just breathe deep, smile to yourself, and let everything unfold and live beyond the storm. 




Be Blessed, Be Encouraged & Be a Blessing,
Racquel